30 Things You Can Do When You Are 30

“Girl, when we were younger…”

Yep, I say that, I hear that. Often, actually. There are so many changes going on in our 30s and so much we can’t do anymore. But, don’t be sad, ladies!

There are lots of things we CAN do because we’re older. Gotta love that, right?

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Here’s my list of 30 things you can do when you’re 30:

  1. Can look in the way i want to – i don’t have to be on top of the fashion or beauty trends anymore. i wear what i want, i go out without makeup on and be still proud of myself.
  2. Can buy something nice.
  3. Eat better and cook better meal – i can take my sweet time to enjoy more too.
  4. Have better relationships with people who are close – i send them thank you notes, send flowers with no reason whatsoever, call mom cause she’s getting older too, etc.
  5. Buy the good wine.
  6. Use proper glasses – flutes or coupes for sparkling wine, pint glasses for beer, etc.
  7. Take a lesson (golf, cooking, pole dancing, whatever).
  8. Go on a road trip to visit an old friend.
  9. Tell the truth.
  10. Say “no” – this is biiiig.
  11. Look past a person’s flaws.
  12. Look past my own flaws.
  13. Be selective who I have a relationship with.
  14. Maintain relationships – i’m more mature and patient now, also i know how precious relationships are.
  15. Go to the gynecologist without being embarrassed.
  16. Speak to strangers.
  17. Handle rejection quite well.
  18. Be happy for other people, instead of jealous or competitive.
  19. Can ignore the Kardashians, Rihanna and every other celebrity people talk about on social media.
  20. Ignore people’s negative comments.
  21. Ignore my ex.
  22. Stand up for myself.
  23. Stand up for people I care about.
  24. Take a taxi home instead of insisting I’m okay to drive.
  25. Stop worrying about whether people like me or think I’m pretty.
  26. Show young ladies what independence looks like.
  27. Avoid the drama.
  28. Swap the tanning lotion for eye cream.
  29. Focus on the smart guy instead of the handsome guy.
  30. Stop trying to be perfect.

Which you agree the most or disagree? What’s different in your list? Please share with us in the comment.


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How to Choose Your Next Favorite Necklace Online

You keep buying crazy big statement necklaces that end up collecting dust on your shelf because you have no idea how to wear them?

You’re not alone!

You have your own jewelry collections, and there will be some you rarely wear.

There could be other reasons, but mainly, it’s two.

One, it doesn’t work with your overall wardrobe. Two, it doesn’t flatter you.

So how do you avoid making these same mistakes twice? Let’s look at a couple of options you should consider to find the best necklace for you.

1. Neckline

If you have a specific outfit in your mind when you buy a necklace, then see what neckline the top or dress is.

When wearing a buttoned up shirt, the attention is already focused on your face. Because there is not much space available to play with, choose a short necklace. A delicate pendant is a right choice to accessorize this outfit if you are the conservatory type, but if you are a fashion trendsetter, you will wear no less than a choker or a statement/bib necklace no longer than 18 inch.

Wear Long with turtleneck.

For V-neck, you don’t want to cover it with a massive necklace. You will want your cleavage to be the center of attention, so choosing a small pendant is the best choice. Chokers or Y necklaces work great with V neck. Light layers of necklaces will be great too.


General ideas are here:

14 inches Collar Tightly around the neck Open-neck clothing such as scoop necks, V-necks, off-the-shoulder and boatnecks
16 inches Choker Tightly against base of throat Almost everything
18 inches Princess On the collarbone Almost everything
20 to 24 inches Matinee Between the collarbone and the bust Great for both business and casual wear
28 to 36 inches Opera On the bust or an inch or two below High necklines and evening wear
36 to 42 inches Rope Wrapped to sit on or just below the center of the bust Elegant business and evening wear

If you have a wide neck and are considering shorter lengths, you may go up an inch or two in length.

layered gold necklaces

2. Your Neck 

A choker on a short neck can make that neck look stubby — and possibly wider than it is. Unfortunately, a wide short neck can’t rock a choker, especially a wide one, so don’t try. Instead, choose a necklace 20- to 24-inches long; this will elongate your type of neck and make it more swan-like.

Wrinkled necks need to stay away from short and tight necklaces too. Unfortunately, they draw the eye to those wrinkles — use a longer necklace, perhaps with a stunning pendant, to draw the viewer’s eye away instead.


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amethyst pendant necklace

3. Your Face

Now, let’s see your face. The common descriptors are oval, round, square and heart-shaped.

Oval faces can wear any length of necklace (keeping in mind, of course, height, neck and body size).

If you have a round face, you want to pick a longer necklace, possibly with a pendant or charm, ideally something that creates a slimming “V” as it glides away from your face. Avoid the round choker as it will make your round face look rounder.

The recommendation is exactly opposite for heart-shaped faces. The roundness of a choker will smooth out the heart shape’s planes and angles.

Long, rectangular faces also benefit from the roundness of the choker.

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4. Your Height

We easily forget about height when we choose jewelry.

Women of average height and taller can wear just about any length necklace (although if you’re taller, a short chain may get lost on you).

But, short women may be overwhelmed by long necklaces and any chunky designs. If you’re 5’4” or smaller like I am, choose a length that sits on your collarbone or just below, and avoid too many layers of jewelry.


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Must-Haves in Your Closet for Confident Women #4

So what else do we need in our closet as a confident woman?

I was originally going to do all accessories for this week, but accessory category is my very favorite subject, so I decided to go in details and to make this solo topic – SHOES!

1. Wedges

This is my most favorite kind of shoes. Wedge is simply so comfortable and so versatile for casual clothes I wear almost every day (and so needed in my city, LA). Not to mention, it gives you a height!



2. Heels for Fun

From sparkling evening wear to colorful weekend ones, every single one of heels gives a different mood and a different look. It’s like we need 100 pairs for 100 outfits?!

Stock some of heels you’d wear for fun. Simple and colorful ones are great for summer.

Animal print heels, Laced-up heels, and Metalic heels are also very  popular, and a lot of people consider them as “must-haves” too.

laced up heels

colorful heels for confident women

3. Heels for Business

No need to explain. Nude and Black pumps are necessary for any working girl.

Especially Patent Leather pumps go perfect for any important meetings you might have.

nude heels

patent leather heels

4. Sports Shoes / Sneakers

Running shoes, walking shoes, work-out shoes, sneakers…whatever you call them, they are so fashionable and so colorful these days, I feel like I should get rainbow collections.

Especially if you usually wear neutral colors for your business, this is a great opportunity to go as colorful as you want!

running shoes


5. Flat Sandals / Slip Ons

After a long night out in those daring high heels, you need these.

Giving everyday dresses and jeans a chic Parisian flair, ballet flats / flat sandals / slip-ons are essential to your wardrobe.

To liven up the mood and to make easier to coordinate, pick up simple but bright color ones. Great with shorts too!

flat slip-ons


flat sandals

6. Knee-High (or taller) Boots

Tall boots, essential for fall or winter, are timeless.

They add big impression to a t-shirt and jeans look and are perfect with a long coat or a casual knee-length dress with a scarf.

tall boots

7. Ankle Boots

Ankel boots are a total necessity for both jeans and dresses. It can add a little boyish charm and give your look some rough and tumble flexibility too.

ankle boots

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4 Tips for Your Most Important Body Part

Which body part you consider most important?

I guess it’s no brainer.

It’s your brain.

The older we get, the better we have to take care of our body.

And yet, we don’t really think about taking care of our brain which is probably the most important part of our body.

taking care of our brain

Women have become more and more of ultimate multi-taskers, and it takes a toll on our brains.

Recent news reports also say that stress might cause women’s brains to age more rapidly. More reasons to hate stress, right?

Debbie Edmunds, the owner of H.O.P.E. Psychotherapy of Houston says,

“The brain is the only organ that to date cannot be grown in a lab or transplanted, yet it is often the most neglected. When it isn’t functioning in a healthy manner, our lives suffer. So having a healthy brain is paramount to mental, physical and spiritual health.”

Also, the president of Women’s brain Health Initiative, Lynn Posluns confirms,

The latest research confirms dementia develops faster in women than in men, women are more vulnerable to Alzheimer’s, and not just because we live longer.”

Women’s brains are more vulnerable to other problems associated with cognitive function as well.

Not to mention, women are twice as likely as men to have Alzheimer’s and dementia. Yikes.

It’s obvious we have to take care of our brain now, pronto.

So here are tips we can use to keep our brain active, strong and healthy.

1. Eat right


Our brains consume a great deal of our bodies’ overall resources. The foods we eat directly impact the brain’s ability to function at the highest level.

Eat poorly, and your memory, attention and focus will suffer.

Nuts, greens, fish, whole grains, poultry, fruits and vegetables, and olive oil have been linked to better cognitive function and a lower risk of Alzheimer’s.

Also they deliver more omega-3 fatty acids, monounsaturated fatty acids, antioxidants and B vitamins to both the heart and brain.

Processed foods and sugars don’t provide a continual flow of nutrients, especially B vitamins, so let’s stay away from them as much as we can.

2. Exercise

Twenty(20) percent – that’s the proportion of blood flowing from the heart that goes to our brains.

Exercise increases heart health, which in turn ensures your brain gets the oxygen and nutrients it needs. Perform exercises that increase cardiovascular health, such as aerobics, yoga, or fast walking.


Dr. Ron Petersen, director of the Mayo Alzheimer’s Research Center, also cites exercises such as “150 minutes a week of brisk walking” and staying intellectually and socially active.

In addition, the National Stroke Association estimates that up to 80 percent of all cases can be prevented by exercising and not smoking, as well as by maintaining healthy blood pressure and cholesterol levels.

3. Challenge Your Brain

Like any other part of our body, the brain needs exercise. Though it benefits from physical exercise, the brain also needs mental challenges to keep it engaged, challenged, and sharp.

Any activity that requires deeper thought or increased focus/attention is ideal.

Play cards. Do a crossword or sudoku puzzle. Play memory games that are easily downloaded as mobile applications or go the old-fashioned route and buy a memory board game. There are myriad ways to stimulate the 100 billion neurons in your brain.

Challenge yourself mentally on a regular basis.

And, thinking on the bright side matters too: Negative thoughts can hinder your brain’s ability to think straight and form memories, according to research from King’s College in London.

4. Meditate


Meditation reduces anxiety, helps with addictions, and improves concentration and attention.

If you have a few minutes in the morning or evening (or both), rather than turning on your phone or going online, see what happens if you try quieting down your mind, or at least paying attention to your thoughts and letting them go without reacting to them.

If the research is right, just a few minutes of meditation may make a big difference.

“You’re never too young to start looking after your brain health,” experts say. So, let’s take care of our brain and have a brain-healthy day everyday!

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Your Queen’s Jewelry

I still remember.

This is a special day. She carefully selects her outfit to wear, she sits down in front of mirror to put on makeups for a change, she does her hair more than just combing, then…

She puts her pearl necklace for the last touch…

The last piece she put on, I knew that was special for her.

When I think about my mom, I think about pearls. Something special about it, isn’t there?

Marguerita, Queen of Italy. Love her layers of pearls!

Marguerita, Queen of Italy. Love her layers of pearls!

Pearl Jewelry has been popular all around the world for centuries.

Queens and Princesses favored them.

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Queen Alexandra, Queen Elizabeth’s great grandmother, loved jewelry, and she was only ever seen covered in pearls and diamonds. She even popularized pearl chokers!


Consuelo Vanderbilt | The Duchess of Marlborough frequently wore a pearl choker/collar that reputedly belonged to Catherine the Great of Russia and the Empress Eugenie (wife of Napoleon III). In 1918, she donated a “collar composed of 15 rows of the Vanderbilt pearls” valued at $ 25k, to a “children’s jewel fund” of which she was treasurer. During the second decade of the 20th Century she was a leading champion of women’s rights and child welfare causes too (a reason to love her even more).


Remember, the infamous Jackie Kennedy Onassis’s 3 layered pearl necklace?

One of the reasons why pearls are so popular is that pearls are so easy to coordinate, and it goes perfectly with so many different outfits we wear. It matches with so many, but at the same time, it is special. It looks special, it makes you look special, and it makes you feel special.


Princess Diana also had a lot of varieties of pearl jewelry we loved so much.

So many different colors, so many different types, and so many different styles of Pearl jewelry attract the wide range of wearers.

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The oh-so-elegant Grace Kelly also had several precious pearl jewelry she frequented.

Another thing we love about pearls is that it’s timeless. It was popular centuries ago. It is popular now. It will still be everywhere in the future too.

The pearl earrings, the pearl necklace, the pearl bracelet you received at your wedding, your graduation, or your birthday (june is pearl month!), you will still have it at your 90th birthday, and it’ll still make you look special (and fashionable too of course). It lasts forever!

Gold Infinity Bracelet with Initial on a pearl chain at PinKixxJewelry

Gold Infinity Bracelet with Initial on a pearl chain

PinKixx has pearl bracelets that could be personalized for your love ones. Of course, you can request a special customized piece for your mom, daughter, or wife too!

initial bracelet with pearl chain on sale for wedding at PinKixxJewelry

initial bracelet with pearl chain

May 8 is mothers day this year. Don’t forget to send her something – a phone call, a card, a gift, a visit…

The most important thing is to make your queen happy!:-)

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What is your favorite pearl jewelry on your mom? Please share your story with us in the comment!


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