It’s already December. The year is almost gone. How was it?
What was this year for you? Was it just another year like any other year? Was it somehow special for you? What did the year 2015 mean to you? Rather, did you mean something to someone or to the world this year?
What we do everyday affects others and ourselves. We should make it count as much as we can. How can we put more values in what we do? How can we have more meaningful life for others and ourselves?
1. Believe in yourself, but also know your limits
Trust yourself. You heard it thousand times. Be confident in yourself. Yes, it’s true. You can do it – whatever that ‘it’ would be.
Also it is important to know that you have limits and you need help. It’s not because you are weak. It’s because you are human.
This simple realization that you are human – you are not perfect and you can’t do everything alone – actually keep you realistic. You don’t have to put too much pressure on yourself. Trust yourself to deliver what you need to, but also be prepared to accept your mistakes. Know who you are. Know what you can do and can’t do.
2. Discover your life purpose
If you had to give yourself a reason to live, what would it be? What would you stand for? What principles do you hold highest? Is your life’s purpose to help others? Is it to inspire others with great works of art, or you words? Finding your life’s purpose is a daunting task. How can you find it?
Start with what you know. Start with what you passionate about.
There are some people who are so bursting with energy and vitality that others feel compelled to listen to them, and feel drawn to them. Passionate home cooks, budding interior designers, gourmet chocolate lovers, antique collectors—just try asking them a question about their interest and they will talk your ears off. You know why? They are living the purpose of their life.
Have a goal. You’ll begin each day looking forward to something special.
Set your goal, and enjoy your journey.
3. Focus on one thing
Rather than chasing 3 or 4 goals and making very little progress on them, place all of your energy on one thing. Focus. Not only will you alleviate some of the stress associated with trying to juggle so many tasks, you will be much more successful. Try and align your goal with something you are passionate about, so that there will be an intrinsic drive to work hard and do well.
4. Simplify your life
By simplifying your life, you’ll have more time to do what fulfills you and gives your life meaning. It can also help reduce stress and make your overall life easier to manage. It also greatly improves your productivity. If you’ve never tried to simplify things before, it really is a great feeling.
5. Daily goals
You have a thousand different things screaming for attention: you have to clean up your room; you have to do the dishes and laundry; and the never-ending household chores are waiting. You have to organize your calendar and make room for more appointments; make time to socialize; make time to go to your niece’s birthday; and, of course, make time to get done in the office.
This is why you need to make a daily list, daily goals. Otherwise, you’ll be pulled into a thousand different things, and nothing will get done.
When you go to bed, create a list of 3 goals you will finish the next day. Make sure they adhere to your set of principles and ultimate goals. Tackle the hardest things first. Remember not to make this list too long. By placing too many things on the list, you’ll feel the urge to multi-task, or you’ll feel overwhelmed. By trying to do less, you’ll end up doing more.
6. Just do it
Stop wishing, stop whining, and just fix the problem. Whatever you’re thinking about doesn’t have to be perfect. Just do it.
Always do your best, and forget about the rest. Believe that what you have and what you know is enough to do what you want to do. Strive for excellence, not for perfection.
7. Prioritize your life
Know what’s important for you. Write down your top 5 things that you believe are the essence of how you want to live life. This can include things like “family time,” or “sing every day.” It could also include more complex ideas, like “honesty” and “simplicity.”
Write your life goals. Write your yearly goals. Break them down to monthly goals, weekly goals, and daily goals. Prioritize what’s important to achieve your life goals.
Put people first before things. Often, we are faced with wanting to buy material goods. I recommend you consider carefully what you purchase, and think more about spending your money on experiences with friends and family. Not only will this give deeper meaning to your life by focusing on your relationships rather than material wealth, but you will be a happier person as a result.
8. Give back and Share
Do something that both honors your beliefs and passions, while giving something back to the world. By giving something back, we inevitably find purpose in the act. By cultivating more of these activities, you will find your life with more meaning and purpose behind it.
Compassion, sharing, and helping others are the purpose of life, for yourself and others. Everything that came goes as well. The circle of life gives the energy for life to go on. You should know how to get helped. You should know how to give as well, in order to keep going.
9. Be thankful
Try this exercise: whenever you are feeling low, make a list of all the things that make you happy, joyous, and grateful. A caring family, kind friends, health, happy home, a job that pays the bills, surprise dinner prepared by a loving spouse, favorite books and keepsakes, unexpected twenty dollar bill in your jeans pocket. Everything counts.
After you’ve done this, consider what has happened to the feelings of doom and gloom: it is impossible not to be cheered up after remembering all the fantastic things you have in your life. Be grateful, and always make room for more happiness.
10. Have a mentor and positive people around you
You are what you think. If you carry negative thoughts, that’s what you are going to get, so try shifting to a more positive outlook on life. You will be surprised to see that whatever you wished for will start to manifest itself around you. Have friends and books around you. Have a mentor who can guide you when you have negative thoughts. Just having people who believe in you and who can guide you around you helps you confident and do better in life.
11. Learn always
The most interesting people are the ones who take an interest in life and never let go of the “beginner’s mind”. They discover learning opportunities and continue to grow, both personally and professionally.
Be a life-long learner. You don’t have to get old to become wise. Read good books, learn something new everyday, and take courses in subjects you enjoy or are interested in. Keep learning.
What do you think? Ready to make your life more meaningful everyday? I’ll end this with a quote:
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t—you’re right.” ― Henry Ford