8 Things Happen When You’re 40

“Girl, I’m too old for this”

You say you’re not young anymore? I know what you mean.

There are so many changes going on and so much we can’t do anymore. Usually my sentence in any conversation these days starts with “now that i’m older…” How sad, isn’t it?

On the other hand, there are lots of things I CAN do because I’m older.

1. I can finally look around me and see clearly

Not that I particularly have more time now, I take time to do things. Just by taking time, I’m more considerate. I started to see things and think about things I didn’t before because I was just running ahead everyday.

I’m more generous and forgiven too. My value on things has been changed from materials to people, and that all of a sudden made my life fuller.

2. I am comfortable with older people

For me, until early 30’s, I still considered myself young. Older people around me are my parents, my teachers, my bosses, my pastors, etc. You know, people I don’t hang out with.

Now, it doesn’t feel strange to become friends with people I look up to. I’m more courageous (?) to talk to strangers and older people and let them know what I think and listen to what they believe.

We share our life experiences, and it’s comfortable. This not only adds new dynamics to mentorship, but also broadens my social circles.

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3. I am content with what I have

It’s never too late to try to write that novel, start that business, travel the world or launch that social activism campaign you’ve always dreamed about. But even if your life goals haven’t happened by the time you’ve hit 40, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be content with the life you have.

I can see I have a lot. I look at what I have more than what I don’t have. That doesn’t make me have more, but believe me. Strangely, I feel like I have more than when I was focusing on what I don’t have.

Finding the balance between ambition and contentment isn’t easy, but it’s part of living with big dreams.

4. I stand up for what I believe in

I guess once I let go of things and not caring so much about what others think, i became courageous (?). Like I said earlier, I can tell people what I know, what I think right, and what I believe in without worrying about what others will say. I learned to respect others and their opinions, and in exchange, I stand up for myself and people I trust.

5. I let myself to be choosy

I’m being careful what I eat, what I buy, who i hang out, and where I want to be. I’m old enough to choose what I like and what I want.

be yourself again

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6. I tell the truth

I’m old enough. I have things to say, and say it. I say ‘no’ when I want to or don’t want to. I can tell my own opinion confidently. My friends understand it, I value their opinions. I believe telling the truth is the best way to avoid future problems.

I can also tell what I know.  My experiences in life is enough to place my trust on. I made tons of mistakes, I had tons of successes, and I have tons of know-hows. Now these are the things I can tell young ones about to help them out.

7. I let go and unplug

I don’t go minding all the little things anymore. I let go. I don’t dwell on things that didn’t work out. Instead, celebrate what worked out more.

I unplug when needed. It’s easy to get stuck in a pattern of working long hours. Not that it’s bad (cause i love it), but I learned to unplug sometimes from work, so I can do more physically. Trip to my parents, having a birthday party, hiking on a mountain, walking my dog to a park, talking to my nieces (which can be very challenging sometimes)…

8. I can be myself, no one else

I let go of myself too. I don’t have to be perfect. I stopped trying to be perfect. I stopped trying to follow trends, I stopped following celebrities fashion into mine.

I accept who I am. I accept my flaws. I know what I can and what I can’t. I’m not ashamed of myself for who I am. I do what makes myself ‘me.’ Being ‘me’ is more fun.


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***Guys, I’m taking a break for a month. I know, this year has been so busy for me personally. Hope some good changes will come. Until i see you again, be confident, PinKixxes!


7 Must-Have Apps for Career Women

How’s your summer going?

After the long holiday weekend, I’m all refreshed to go back to work, but at the same time, it’s hard going back to the work schedule again.

What do you use to increase your productivity? With your busy schedule, what helps you to keep up on everything on your to-do list?

I share some excellent apps that will help you keep on track of your everyday life and work.

1. Mint

This handy and simple-to-use personal budgeting app tracks your income and expenses, calculates average spending, and predicts balances for the end of the month or year. A clear and easy overview of your finances.

Mint app

2. Audible

Audible is the perfect app for intelligent women on the go. Brush up on your literature and keep your mind sharp while commuting to work, running errands, driving, or simply hanging around the house.

3. NTC (Nike Training Club)

With More than 100 gym workouts targeted to your goals and fitness level, along with step-by-step instruction and audio guidance, this app will keep you on track for your body and health. Also includes workouts from athletes such as Serena Williams and Paula Radcliffe.


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4. Week Calendar

Instead of the month or day view, it allows you to see your entire weekly schedule all laid out. You can cut, copy, and duplicate events, so it’s super convenient for repeated activities. With Week Calendar app, you can see your entire week right in front of your eyes, all organized and color-coded. Super convenient!


week calendar app

5. Evernote

When it comes to staying organized, no app is more helpful than Evernote. The app lets you organize notes, ideas, to-do lists, images, and more, all within a platform that syncs across all devices. If you’ve ever wished for a personal assistant, Evernote is the answer to your prayers.

6. Ruby by Glow

Ruby by Glow is essentially an all-purpose tool for women to take control of their sex lives. Geared towards empowering sexually active females, the app offers tools for keeping track of sexual activity, symptoms, and health as well as a menstrual cycle timer.


Ruby-Glow app

7. Flipboard

For women (or anyone) looking to stay informed and up-to-date without weeding through articles online or in print newspapers, Flipboard is the virtual solution to your problems. It provides an easy-to-digest, magazine-format platform for customizing news and social media content, so you can see the most interesting articles on your topics.


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Please share in the comment which app you use to make your life easier!

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How to Be Confident No.2

As you know already by now, this is my F-A-V-O-R-I-T-E subject to talk about.

I want all women out there to be confident about themselves.

It’s not an option. We have to be confident everyday.

It’s our PinKixx’s mission to accomplish everyday.

Just talking to you about it makes me all charged up, so let’s go.

1. Track Your Success

Keep a log of your accomplishments, large and small.

Recording victories on a daily basis will make you feel more successful, and looking over your progress will boost your self esteem.

In addition, reviewing your achievements should give you some good ideas for what to work on next.

2. Accept that Failure Is Not the End of the World

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It’s the truth. As scary as it sounds, failure is not the end.

Learn from your mistakes.

Understand that the pursuit of perfection often limits your accomplishments. You don’t have to be perfect. You better not be perfect, actually.

Many great achievements have been far from perfect. Whatever that you’re perfecting right now, it’s good enough, just do it.

3. Practice Being Assertive

Take an active role in pursuing success, no matter how anxious or small you feel.

I do this often. I visualize possible situations where I may face, and picture myself being assertive. I make these scenarios as vivid as I can, so when I get to the situation in real life, I am ready for it.

Check your body language in a mirror, and practice good posture and a self-assured expression. Then go out and take a few chances, starting with low-risk situations.

4. Prepare to Succeed

I’m not talking about to be demanding or presumptuous. Actually don’t be. That makes you cocky and that will probably backfire soon enough.

I’m talking about believing in yourself and knowing you can get whatever you want.

In fact, having those qualities will make you a more successful person.


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Like we talked about in our first “how to be confident,” don’t forget to improve yourself everyday. Improving your skills and yourself should be your everyday and forever homework, and they will build confidence in you for sure.

Do you have your own tricks to be confident? Please share it with other like-minds in the comment.

30 Things You Can Do When You Are 30

“Girl, when we were younger…”

Yep, I say that, I hear that. Often, actually. There are so many changes going on in our 30s and so much we can’t do anymore. But, don’t be sad, ladies!

There are lots of things we CAN do because we’re older. Gotta love that, right?

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Here’s my list of 30 things you can do when you’re 30:

  1. Can look in the way i want to – i don’t have to be on top of the fashion or beauty trends anymore. i wear what i want, i go out without makeup on and be still proud of myself.
  2. Can buy something nice.
  3. Eat better and cook better meal – i can take my sweet time to enjoy more too.
  4. Have better relationships with people who are close – i send them thank you notes, send flowers with no reason whatsoever, call mom cause she’s getting older too, etc.
  5. Buy the good wine.
  6. Use proper glasses – flutes or coupes for sparkling wine, pint glasses for beer, etc.
  7. Take a lesson (golf, cooking, pole dancing, whatever).
  8. Go on a road trip to visit an old friend.
  9. Tell the truth.
  10. Say “no” – this is biiiig.
  11. Look past a person’s flaws.
  12. Look past my own flaws.
  13. Be selective who I have a relationship with.
  14. Maintain relationships – i’m more mature and patient now, also i know how precious relationships are.
  15. Go to the gynecologist without being embarrassed.
  16. Speak to strangers.
  17. Handle rejection quite well.
  18. Be happy for other people, instead of jealous or competitive.
  19. Can ignore the Kardashians, Rihanna and every other celebrity people talk about on social media.
  20. Ignore people’s negative comments.
  21. Ignore my ex.
  22. Stand up for myself.
  23. Stand up for people I care about.
  24. Take a taxi home instead of insisting I’m okay to drive.
  25. Stop worrying about whether people like me or think I’m pretty.
  26. Show young ladies what independence looks like.
  27. Avoid the drama.
  28. Swap the tanning lotion for eye cream.
  29. Focus on the smart guy instead of the handsome guy.
  30. Stop trying to be perfect.

Which you agree the most or disagree? What’s different in your list? Please share with us in the comment.


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One Small Thing To Change Your Life

It goes crazy.

It runs fast.

It feels endless.

Yep, sometimes that’s how our EVERYDAY goes.

You’re a teacher, a leader, an artist, an entrepreneur, a manager, a coach, or someone who is strong, confident, and proud.

That does not mean you don’t get depressed, tired, or stressed in the midst of busy everyday schedules.

Everyday life runs fast and busy, and even when everything is going well as you planned, you do sometimes feel disconnected, anxious, or depressed. Strange, isn’t it?

When you were younger, you moved with a group of friends, went out doing ‘stuff’ together all the time, and tried to be one of them and did anything you wanted to do.

You made lots of mistakes, broke up relationships, and shed tears and sweats, and now you are where you do feel settled and know where you are headed.

You have friends to talk to. You have enough activities going on everyday. You are smart and experienced enough. So, why are you feeling isolated or empty at times?

busy always but feeling isolated? you're not alone.

busy always but feeling isolated? you’re not alone. image from pinterest.com

I can say one thing for sure. You’re not alone.

So many of us go through the same thing everyday everywhere. These negative things come and go, and we have to overcome it and need to rejuvenate ourselves when it comes.

I used to think that I needed to rest when it happened. ‘I’ve been too busy,’ I thought.

I made some free time and did one person activities such as eating, exercising, sleeping, watching TV, or reading – just relaxing. Although it did help me physically but did not get me out of the weird emptiness I felt.

So, I tried different things when I hit the same wall again, and found out that it wasn’t the relaxing time that I needed. I needed my mind shifted.

Here are some things that helped me to change my mind to the positive directions.


It was not exactly that I needed to rest my body. I needed energy.

As you already know, it’s proven by so many that moving your body gains energy for your mind and body. So, instead of resting my body, I try to do the opposite, which actually put my mind to rest.

Going out for whitewater rafting or hiking rejuvenized my body and refreshened up my mind by taking it off my work or busy schedule. It’s even better if you do it with friends, groups, or your family.

Sweating in exercise is good too, but I try to find more outdoor ‘activity’ than ‘exercise,’ so it is more fun. I’m not ‘working’-out if you know what I mean.

change your mind and get into new patterns

change your mind and get into new patterns


Don’t get sucked into the negative thoughts. You know when that happens. You know the pattern.

You blame on yourself first.

‘why am I like this?’
‘what’s wrong with me?’
‘what am I doing?’
‘is this my life?’

Then, it transfers to what’s NOT working out. You dig out problems, and then ‘maybe i should’ ‘maybe i could’ve’ or ‘what if?’ starts.

You either dwell in the past with ‘could’ve, should’ve, or would’ve’s or worry about the future that didn’t happen yet.

You ruminate over mistakes, problems, guilt, or anything in your life that did not go the way you believed it should have gone, or you fear of what may or may not happen for yourself or your family.

Catch it before you go too deep. Take a deep breath and try to see it from a 3rd person’s point of view. Be a watcher of the situation/moment.

Don’t blame on yourself or look at what’s going wrong. Look at what’s happened/happening right. Think about what makes you smile even when you’re depressed.

For years, I have had this picture right in front of my desk. I have no other choice but see it everyday, and it makes me smile and imitate what I see.

the most important activity for your life

the most important activity for your life: let’s laugh! (from pinterest.com)

That’s right. Laugh it off and step back. Breath deep and turn around from your negative thoughts.


Ah, this is so big, and you probably already have them.

Have the positive people around you at all times.

Keep them close to you. Check in with them often. Support them and get supported by them. These are the people you CAN ask for help when you need it.


Regret can go so far. A lot of times, no point doing it anyway.

Let-go was the biggest lesson I learned in life. It is still the hardest thing to do for me. Accept what is, accept what happened or not happened.

Look at what you have, not what you could have. This includes yourself too. Accept who you are and go from there. Believe me, you are more than enough.

Cease the opportunities you currently have on your plate. Make the best of what you have or who you are.

accept who you are

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One small thing can make big things. One little thing you change can change your bad habits. One thing can lead you to a new start.

Going to a yoga class once a week can help you. Change your diet can help. Calling your mom once a week can change. Putting down your electronic device one hour before you go to bed could make a big difference. See what happens when you stand on your desk once a day.

Change your mind on things and situations. Change your life. Your new way of thinking and looking at things will change your now and your future. 

What’s your small thing that you do or will do to change your life? Please share with us in the comment!

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