8 Things Happen When You’re 40

“Girl, I’m too old for this”

You say you’re not young anymore? I know what you mean.

There are so many changes going on and so much we can’t do anymore. Usually my sentence in any conversation these days starts with “now that i’m older…” How sad, isn’t it?

On the other hand, there are lots of things I CAN do because I’m older.

1. I can finally look around me and see clearly

Not that I particularly have more time now, I take time to do things. Just by taking time, I’m more considerate. I started to see things and think about things I didn’t before because I was just running ahead everyday.

I’m more generous and forgiven too. My value on things has been changed from materials to people, and that all of a sudden made my life fuller.

2. I am comfortable with older people

For me, until early 30’s, I still considered myself young. Older people around me are my parents, my teachers, my bosses, my pastors, etc. You know, people I don’t hang out with.

Now, it doesn’t feel strange to become friends with people I look up to. I’m more courageous (?) to talk to strangers and older people and let them know what I think and listen to what they believe.

We share our life experiences, and it’s comfortable. This not only adds new dynamics to mentorship, but also broadens my social circles.

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3. I am content with what I have

It’s never too late to try to write that novel, start that business, travel the world or launch that social activism campaign you’ve always dreamed about. But even if your life goals haven’t happened by the time you’ve hit 40, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be content with the life you have.

I can see I have a lot. I look at what I have more than what I don’t have. That doesn’t make me have more, but believe me. Strangely, I feel like I have more than when I was focusing on what I don’t have.

Finding the balance between ambition and contentment isn’t easy, but it’s part of living with big dreams.

4. I stand up for what I believe in

I guess once I let go of things and not caring so much about what others think, i became courageous (?). Like I said earlier, I can tell people what I know, what I think right, and what I believe in without worrying about what others will say. I learned to respect others and their opinions, and in exchange, I stand up for myself and people I trust.

5. I let myself to be choosy

I’m being careful what I eat, what I buy, who i hang out, and where I want to be. I’m old enough to choose what I like and what I want.

be yourself again

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6. I tell the truth

I’m old enough. I have things to say, and say it. I say ‘no’ when I want to or don’t want to. I can tell my own opinion confidently. My friends understand it, I value their opinions. I believe telling the truth is the best way to avoid future problems.

I can also tell what I know.  My experiences in life is enough to place my trust on. I made tons of mistakes, I had tons of successes, and I have tons of know-hows. Now these are the things I can tell young ones about to help them out.

7. I let go and unplug

I don’t go minding all the little things anymore. I let go. I don’t dwell on things that didn’t work out. Instead, celebrate what worked out more.

I unplug when needed. It’s easy to get stuck in a pattern of working long hours. Not that it’s bad (cause i love it), but I learned to unplug sometimes from work, so I can do more physically. Trip to my parents, having a birthday party, hiking on a mountain, walking my dog to a park, talking to my nieces (which can be very challenging sometimes)…

8. I can be myself, no one else

I let go of myself too. I don’t have to be perfect. I stopped trying to be perfect. I stopped trying to follow trends, I stopped following celebrities fashion into mine.

I accept who I am. I accept my flaws. I know what I can and what I can’t. I’m not ashamed of myself for who I am. I do what makes myself ‘me.’ Being ‘me’ is more fun.


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***Guys, I’m taking a break for a month. I know, this year has been so busy for me personally. Hope some good changes will come. Until i see you again, be confident, PinKixxes!


Why Do You Wear Jewelry?

We like them.

We wear them everyday.

But why?

We’re talking about J-E-W-E-L-R-Y!

Did you hear about the 4mm tiny gold bead that could be the world’s oldest gold artifact discovered a week ago?

I don’t know about you, but it makes metal lovers like us excited and curious.

Why do you wear jewelry? What does jewelry mean to you?

oldest gold artifact

Europe’s and probably the world’s oldest gold artifact by Reuters / dimitar kyosemarliev

Jewels were always part of human culture. Even from the times when humans first started using clothes and tools some 100.000 years ago, jewels were produced from any kind of materials that were available – stones, animal skins, feathers, plants, bones, shells, wood, and natural made semi-precious materials.


As the time went on, advancing technology enabled artisans to start taming metals and precious gems into works of art that influenced entire cultures and many modern jewelry styles.

However, no matter how long it’s been, the purpose of wearing jewelry always remained the same – they enabled wearer to express himself/herself non-verbally and showcase wealth, rank, political and religious affiliation, or affections toward someone.

history of jewelry1

No matter how old or young you are, jewelry has been to express yourself, and show who you are and your affection toward someone. That’s why we wear jewelry.

Jewelry is your statement to the world without words from your mouth. Showing is much more powerful than talking about it.

modern jewelry wearers

modern jewelry wearers images from pinterest.com

What do you wear to express yourself today? What does your jewelry show to people now?

Is that power? Is that your delicacy or prettiness? Is that your determination?

Remember you’re showing who you are everyday.

Make sure people get it. Make sure to wear that represents you. Even if it’s just one tiny piece around your neck, or your wrist, or on your earlobe.

Make sure you show who you are today, and be confident as always!


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Your Favorite Summer Drinks Here!

It’s hot. It’s summer. I want to get out of here!

As you can tell from my recent posts, summer for me is ‘get-away’ ‘vacation’ and ‘recharging’ time.

I just feel like get out of the city and enjoy the sun and outdoor as much as I can and explore the unknown.

Unfortunately, this year is a little busier than usual for me, so I can’t go far. (sigh…)

But, at least in the weekend, packing up with some DIY favorite drinks and have a little party with close friends around a pool seem like a natural thing to do.

summer cocktails from pinterest.com

summer cocktails from pinterest.com

Here are some cool drinks you can enjoy anywhere this summer!

1. Frozen Dark and  Stormy

Spicy ginger beer shines in this grown-up slush.

2. Strawberry Daiquiri 

Sweet strawberries are even better with rum.

3. Mojito Slushies

Add the lime juice, agave, mint leaves, lime zest, and rum to a blender. Blend until smooth. Fill the blender to top with ice and blend until slushy. Pour into glasses, garnishing each with a sprig of mint and a lime slice.


4. Fruity Punch

A mixture of quava juice and orange juice topped with lime soda. Awesome taste!


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5. Watermelon Sangria

Looks like watermelon is on demand this summer. Put watermelon, moscato, rum, lime juice and zest, and sugar in a blender and work it until smooth. Refrigerate until chilled. Garnish glasses with lime slices and serve.

Try these refreshing summer drinks this weekend! And let us know what your favorite summer drink is in the comment!

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5 Easy Safety Tips for Solo Female Travelers

Summer time!

We are out, and we are going around. It’s a traveling season!

As much as we all want to travel more, there are tons of reasons why women don’t travel alone, especially to several particular countries.

While it IS true that you have to be extra careful when you go alone, most of the common dangers you will face CAN be prevented easily.

Here are some easy breezy safety tips for you to use on your next solo trip.

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Tailor your research to the type of place you are going and your own travel style. Check out the blogs other solo female travelers or posts for them. They are full of practical and good advice.


Make sure someone at home has all your information. Scan everything and give a copy to a friend and keep one with you. Do schedule for regular check ins with them too.

Chatting to local staff is not just a great way to ask about the local area. Ask them about any dangers currently happening that you should watch out for. Those information can’t be found in your travel book.

Also make yourself known to your hotel staff who may notice if you don’t return as expected. Tell them where you’re going and when you think you’ll be back.


Always get a card from the place you’re staying. If they don’t have cards, write the name, address and phone number and keep it with you. You can use this info in case you lose your way back. I also keep them as souvenirs personally.

underwater statues

underwater statues in mexico


It may be tough to look like a local, but try to mingle if possible. Don’t spread your map at a corner of a big street and stare at it to figure out how to get there. Learning a few phrases in the local language beforehand helps too.


Like don’t flash a stack of cash on the street. Store them safely (like in your secret pouch under your shirt) and have a pocket for some changes for a quick access.

Keep your valuables close to you or on you. Take extra time to be safe. Don’t get drunk alone. Have a travel insurance. Get a international calling card. You know the basic drill.


What is your tips you learned on traveling? Please share it with us in the comment, and stay safe and confident!

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7 Must-Have Apps for Career Women

How’s your summer going?

After the long holiday weekend, I’m all refreshed to go back to work, but at the same time, it’s hard going back to the work schedule again.

What do you use to increase your productivity? With your busy schedule, what helps you to keep up on everything on your to-do list?

I share some excellent apps that will help you keep on track of your everyday life and work.

1. Mint

This handy and simple-to-use personal budgeting app tracks your income and expenses, calculates average spending, and predicts balances for the end of the month or year. A clear and easy overview of your finances.

Mint app

2. Audible

Audible is the perfect app for intelligent women on the go. Brush up on your literature and keep your mind sharp while commuting to work, running errands, driving, or simply hanging around the house.

3. NTC (Nike Training Club)

With More than 100 gym workouts targeted to your goals and fitness level, along with step-by-step instruction and audio guidance, this app will keep you on track for your body and health. Also includes workouts from athletes such as Serena Williams and Paula Radcliffe.


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4. Week Calendar

Instead of the month or day view, it allows you to see your entire weekly schedule all laid out. You can cut, copy, and duplicate events, so it’s super convenient for repeated activities. With Week Calendar app, you can see your entire week right in front of your eyes, all organized and color-coded. Super convenient!


week calendar app

5. Evernote

When it comes to staying organized, no app is more helpful than Evernote. The app lets you organize notes, ideas, to-do lists, images, and more, all within a platform that syncs across all devices. If you’ve ever wished for a personal assistant, Evernote is the answer to your prayers.

6. Ruby by Glow

Ruby by Glow is essentially an all-purpose tool for women to take control of their sex lives. Geared towards empowering sexually active females, the app offers tools for keeping track of sexual activity, symptoms, and health as well as a menstrual cycle timer.


Ruby-Glow app

7. Flipboard

For women (or anyone) looking to stay informed and up-to-date without weeding through articles online or in print newspapers, Flipboard is the virtual solution to your problems. It provides an easy-to-digest, magazine-format platform for customizing news and social media content, so you can see the most interesting articles on your topics.


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Please share in the comment which app you use to make your life easier!

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