“Girl, I’m too old for this”
You say you’re not young anymore? I know what you mean.
There are so many changes going on and so much we can’t do anymore. Usually my sentence in any conversation these days starts with “now that i’m older…” How sad, isn’t it?
On the other hand, there are lots of things I CAN do because I’m older.
1. I can finally look around me and see clearly
Not that I particularly have more time now, I take time to do things. Just by taking time, I’m more considerate. I started to see things and think about things I didn’t before because I was just running ahead everyday.
I’m more generous and forgiven too. My value on things has been changed from materials to people, and that all of a sudden made my life fuller.
2. I am comfortable with older people
For me, until early 30’s, I still considered myself young. Older people around me are my parents, my teachers, my bosses, my pastors, etc. You know, people I don’t hang out with.
Now, it doesn’t feel strange to become friends with people I look up to. I’m more courageous (?) to talk to strangers and older people and let them know what I think and listen to what they believe.
We share our life experiences, and it’s comfortable. This not only adds new dynamics to mentorship, but also broadens my social circles.
3. I am content with what I have
It’s never too late to try to write that novel, start that business, travel the world or launch that social activism campaign you’ve always dreamed about. But even if your life goals haven’t happened by the time you’ve hit 40, it doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be content with the life you have.
I can see I have a lot. I look at what I have more than what I don’t have. That doesn’t make me have more, but believe me. Strangely, I feel like I have more than when I was focusing on what I don’t have.
Finding the balance between ambition and contentment isn’t easy, but it’s part of living with big dreams.
4. I stand up for what I believe in
I guess once I let go of things and not caring so much about what others think, i became courageous (?). Like I said earlier, I can tell people what I know, what I think right, and what I believe in without worrying about what others will say. I learned to respect others and their opinions, and in exchange, I stand up for myself and people I trust.
5. I let myself to be choosy
I’m being careful what I eat, what I buy, who i hang out, and where I want to be. I’m old enough to choose what I like and what I want.
6. I tell the truth
I’m old enough. I have things to say, and say it. I say ‘no’ when I want to or don’t want to. I can tell my own opinion confidently. My friends understand it, I value their opinions. I believe telling the truth is the best way to avoid future problems.
I can also tell what I know. My experiences in life is enough to place my trust on. I made tons of mistakes, I had tons of successes, and I have tons of know-hows. Now these are the things I can tell young ones about to help them out.
7. I let go and unplug
I don’t go minding all the little things anymore. I let go. I don’t dwell on things that didn’t work out. Instead, celebrate what worked out more.
I unplug when needed. It’s easy to get stuck in a pattern of working long hours. Not that it’s bad (cause i love it), but I learned to unplug sometimes from work, so I can do more physically. Trip to my parents, having a birthday party, hiking on a mountain, walking my dog to a park, talking to my nieces (which can be very challenging sometimes)…
8. I can be myself, no one else
I let go of myself too. I don’t have to be perfect. I stopped trying to be perfect. I stopped trying to follow trends, I stopped following celebrities fashion into mine.
I accept who I am. I accept my flaws. I know what I can and what I can’t. I’m not ashamed of myself for who I am. I do what makes myself ‘me.’ Being ‘me’ is more fun.
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***Guys, I’m taking a break for a month. I know, this year has been so busy for me personally. Hope some good changes will come. Until i see you again, be confident, PinKixxes!